North East Singleton?

Risk taker or online dater?

Published 16th Jan 2015

The New Year is nearly here and with the dawn of 2015 inevitably comes resolutions - that list of aims and goals for the 12 months ahead. Inevitably, there will be many people who make a pledge to find love in 2015, whether that be by finally plucking up the courage to ask someone they've long admired out on a date or simply to be more actively socially in an attempt to meet someone.

But how can a singleton find love? Here are a few suggestions:

Go online

Online dating is hugely popular in these modern times. The advantage of becoming a member of a dating website is that it can really help in finding and meeting potential partners, and particularly if you find it difficult to get out and about. You can log on from the comfort of your own home, take your time and be selective with who to choose to chat to. There are many websites out there but Mysinglefriend.com is one of the most well known: your friends write your profile for you, which is a nice variation on the norm.

Speed dating

Don't be intimidated - speed dating can be a really fun way to spend a night. The key is to go to an event with a couple of friends and not to take it all too seriously; don't get stressed about trying to meet a life partner, if you come away having spoken to just one person you might want to talk to again, for longer, the evening has been a success. The sessions themselves are fast (obviously) but the bonus is that if you find yourself chatting to someone you don't really like you're only in their company for a matter of minutes. This website lists speed dating events in the north east.

Take a risk

This might a scenario you're familiar with. There may be a friend you've known for long time who you've always been attracted to but never taken the chance to ask out on a date. There's a possibility that they might feel the same. Why not resolve to take a calculated risk and see if they want to take things to another level? If you usually socialise in a large group of friends, perhaps ask the object of your affection whether they want to meet for dinner, just the two of you. Or lunch, or even just a coffee. The subtle shift in environment might be an eye opener for both of you.

Find friends first

Not all relationships start with the hefty bang of intense physical attraction. This isn't the movies, after all. You don't have to walk into a crowded room, catch the eye of a stranger, feel like you've been struck by a bolt of lightning (or Cupid's arrow) etc, etc. Love can and does spark from friendship, so put yourself in a position to make new friends. This could mean a running group, joining the gym, volunteering to get involved with various local projects - anything which will increase your interaction with other people and lead to new friendships is a positive thing.